Books, sharing, travel

How Travel Can Help with Death and Grief – Shared link to Podcast by Joanna Penn

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Photo by Matthias Zomer from Pexels

Did you ever think about how traveling can help you deal with grief or loss?  I didn’t!  If you are looking for a way to deal with grief or loss, take a listen to Memento More. How Travel Can Help Us Deal With Death and Grief with Dr. Karen Wyatt.  It is a very interesting podcast called Books and Travel by Joanna Penn.  It is good information on how traveling can help.

Enjoy!

Belle xo

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3-2-1 – Quote Me – Self Confidence

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321 Quote Me Directory

*I was nominated to participate in 321 Quote Me Created by A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip!

*- I have copied & pasted his words for your understanding of what is done here:

The Quote Game will be finishing Friday 14th but will be back from January 2019, whilst the Christmas Challenge is underway. For the next 7 days or so, on some topics l will be selecting 6 bloggers, but as a nominee, you only have to select the standard 3.

Three times a week, l will pick a random topic, post two quotes on that topic and nominate 3 bloggers, who in turn will post 2 quotes on the topic and nominate 3 bloggers of their own.

Rules: 3.2.1 Quote Me!

Thank the Selector

Post 2 quotes for the dedicated Topic of the Day.

Select 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’

Note: Although this is the topic for today there is no specific deadline to it, meaning you can answer as and when.

Please Note l will be reblogging your responses unless you wish for me to NOT do so.

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Topic For Today: ”Self Confidence”

“Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.”
― Rumi,

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
― Theodore Roosevelt


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1) Thank you for selecting me to participate A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip!! 🙂

2) My Quotes for “Self Confidence”:

“Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, word, beautiful, magical person that you are.”  – Mandy Hale

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” – Brene Brown 

3) My 3 bloggers (if you can and are willing):  

That was fun and hope you enjoy! <3

Belle xo

 

Name3, Questions, sharing

Three Fun Things – 12/10

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I have decided to join in the fun again today.  A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip has these today:

Name Three …

Things that every person should do at least once in their life?  Travel (if even just a few hours away to see somewhere new), something you never dared to do, dance

Harry Potter Films?  The Half-Blood Prince, The Goblet of Fire, The Deathly Hollows

Things that are flat and green?  Lilly pad, green plate, round green placemat

Things that IMP is short for?  Internet Messaging Program, International Masters Publishers, Mischievous sprite

Flightless bird species?  Penquin, Emu, Ostrich

Things you are doing today that you’ll not be doing tomorrow?  Writing this post

Foods that taste foul to you?  Blue cheese, buttermilk (is that a food?), anchovy

Things that are bright?  Stars, lights, sun

Things that are bouncy?  Balls, rabbits, jack russels

Things that are sharp but are not knives?  Paper, plastic, metal

Things that you are thankful for?  Family, friends, music

Animals that start with the letter Z?  Zebra, Zorilla, Zebu

Countries that you would to visit?  France, Spain, Greece

Of the craziest things you have ever done?  Hmmm….not sure I have done crazy things.  Maybe some would say singing in front of people is crazy (I get a rush even when nervous doing so), ummm…..maybe setting out on my own after 30 years, and….shoot I don’t know. I’m not that crazy, LOL!

Things that you would like to write about but haven’t?  My life, a good fiction story, just anything! 🙂

Items on your bucket list?  Do something that helps others, see places internationally, see places here in the state

Bad habits of today’s society?  Close mindedness, Misinterpretations, thinking that “their” way is the only way

Belle xo

Fun, me, sharing

Name Three Things

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Saw this on The Haunted Wordsmith blog that A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip posted originally.  Thought it looked fun so here goes….

Name three things –

That you cannot under any circumstances live without ?  Water, food, sleep

That you write about every week?  Life issues, poems, fun prompts

That you wouldn’t recommend doing whilst holding one foot in the air?  Walking, dancing, standing for any amount of time

That you say to people every day?  Thank you, Have a great day, May I help you?

To do with your street?  Traffic, houses, trees

That you can eat with brown sauce? If meaning brown gravy, then…mashed potatoes, biscuits, ground steak

You like about your favourite bloggers? The fun they have, the comments they make, the support I feel

That you don’t eat every week? Sweets/candy, bread, pastries/baked goods

That you wished you could eat every day? Pies, bread, steak

About your favourite pair of shoes that you like? Broke in, cute, go with everything

That annoyingly always arrive in three? Deaths, bad news, good news (like pregnancies)

About books you really don’t like?  That I don’t have enough, they are mainly ebooks now, that I don’t have enough 😉

Belle xo

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Why?….

IMG_5700Okay…I am in the process of getting a divorce.  I fought for years trying to fix something that couldn’t be fixed because he was not ready to fix himself nor us.  After trying to explain to him the problems, show him the problems and even go to counseling to fix things once he was willing (after our first separation when I was finally done), he still was not there.

I can’t explain what I am going through.  I have been through so much.  And I am not saying this to get pity.  I’m not saying this to get a reaction from anyone.  But I just need to say all this and get it out of my head and heart….

When I tried for years to fix things with a person that couldn’t/wouldn’t see things and continued to be the same (locked in himself, lying to my face, manipulating my thoughts into believing I was wrong, even when I absolutely knew I was right, just so many things that I didn’t know how to handle or deal with) and I felt lost and was sinking into a person I didn’t know anymore.  I used to be a fighter.  I used to have confidence in what I wanted in life and a marriage.  I used to think we could have anything we needed and wanted if only we could get past this.

But to be shot down time and time again.  To question myself and my life constantly. To know there was something wrong and not be able to do something about it or even know what it was to do so, tore me in two.  It broke my heart, broke my trust and almost broke the person I am.  But I knew i had to get through it and get my kids out the door, into college and starting their own life so they could be better than we were, hopefully, in life.

I am not dramatizing things.  This is how I see/saw things through the years and as they got worse, so did I.  It finally got to a point where I was desperately searching for something I must be missing.  Searching for what could be the problem.  Searching for what could make me happy again.  I was so bad off I failed at my job.  I failed at being a friend and co-worker and failed at being a mom in some circumstances.  I felt ashamed and not good enough for anything.

After our first separation I gave him another chance when he begged me to.  I took him back in.  We decided to take up an offer to move and restart our lives somewhere new.  I went and started while he was to get the house ready to sell and then move out with me.  Yet he stayed away.  Once again, I felt abandoned and that I was not good enough.  After a year and a half of being in one place and he in another and only coming to see me on weekends and going into depression each time he was away on his own.

I finally told him I wanted separation again.  He would not take it.  He kept hanging on and refusing to accept I am done.  He is still doing so now.  Over 3 years after the first time I asked for a separation, he is still refusing to understand I am done.  I cannot trust him nor feel like there is something there to save anymore.  I fought for so long that I have lost all the hope I once had.  I am ready to move on and now all of a sudden he is ready to fight!!!

I can’t do this anymore! I don’t know how to make him understand without being mean and that is not me.  I don’t want anyone else to fight this battle for me but I am so needing God to help me or to make him understand it’s done.  I don’t know where to turn or what to do at this point without being a person I do not want to me because it is not me.

I love him but not enough to stay anymore.  I love him because he is the father of our children and we have been through so much together.  But I CANNOT keep doing this to myself!!!  I am exhausted and just ready to move on and try to be happy.  I have cried myself silly tonight because of it.  I honestly am lost at what to do.  It makes me feel sick.

I pray that no one else is going through this, because it is so damn hard and gut wrenching.  I never thought or wanted this to happen but I can’t help what is and what has happened.  It is life and I will get through it.   I just wish I had the help and guidance in what to do and how to do it right.

Thank you for reading my pity party/rant at life.

Next time I will be brighter <3

Belle xo

*Picture found on Pinterest by artist Loui Jover